Down in the dumps? Wayne Dyer can help – Aug, 2016
For the past few days I’ve woken up feeling… not quite “right.” No reason really. Sometimes life is just that way.
I noticed that if I got out of my house, and began interacting with people – and quit worrying about why I was feeling so off – that I felt better.
Doing two specific things greatly enhanced my mood:
First, as I walked down the street, I consciously changed my physiology:
I put a smile on my face. Yes, it was forced at first, but pretty soon it became authentic.
I also remembered to straighten my posture and keep my eyes looking up instead of at the ground, lost in a crummy Mind Loop. Making physiological shifts really helps to bust out of a bad mood.
The 2nd thing I did was beautifully described by best-selling author and psychologist, Dr. Wayne Dyer. It’s a simple and yet profound concept… I found an interview where he describes this, and decided to let Dr. Dyer “tell” you himself, by sending you a few choice sections of an interview with him.
If you feel a little “off” – or maybe a lot “off”, in the form of depression or frustration or disappointment or any other low Mind Loop state – take a cue from Dr. Dyer. I think it’ll help a lot.
Dyer: Marianne Williamson has written that there are really only two primary emotions in the universe, love and fear. So anytime you’re feeling anxious, insecure, worried, angry or resentful, you’ve left love and entered fear.
Paskin: You say that one of the fastest ways to transform fear into love and tap into the source is through kindness.
Dyer: Absolutely true. Choosing to be kind is a choice to make the Power of Intention active in your life. The beneficial effects of kindness on the immune system and the increased production of serotonin have been proven. Conversely, unkindness weakens the body and puts us into a state of dissonance. So extend acts of kindness; ask for nothing in return.
Paskin: Is this realistic for non-saints?
Dyer: [laughter] We’re all saints! That’s the whole point. We all have built into us this intention, the capacities for kindness and creativity and beauty. It’s a matter of perspective. As Einstein said, “The single most important decision any of us will ever make is whether or not to believe that the universe is friendly.” It’s your choice.
Paskin: But it’s a pretty violent, messy planet, isn’t it?
Dyer: It is. But for every act of violence and messiness there are a million acts of kindness and goodness. It just depends where you look… Anyone who’s angry, nasty or rude is really offering a plea to be loved. I play a game with myself, trying to convert them from what I call low-energy emotions that drain us—frustration, irritation, anger and impatience—into high-energy emotions that sustain us—love, caring, kindness.
Paskin: How do you do it?
Dyer: By asking that surly waiter or harried airline clerk something about themselves or by expressing empathy, “Where are you from? It must be tough standing on your feet for eight hours.” Anything to let a person know that, in that moment, I’m thinking more about them than about myself. And you know what happens? Instantly you see a smile.
Paskin: So when you’re feeling offended by others…
Dyer: Remember this rule: Stop taking yourself so seriously! Get your ego out of the way and connect back to kindness—that from which you came.
Experiment With This:
Who can you practice kindness with today? It doesn’t have to be someone you know well, and it doesn’t have to be a big and grandiose act. A kind word to a store clerk, helping out a co-worker, or sending a text to your partner expressing something special you love about them.
Add in the shift in your physiology (smile, deeper breathing, eyes up), and I think you’ll be surprised at how much it lifts you out of that “down in the dumps” mood.
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Wishing you a TON of kindness this week!
Barbara Ireland is Kindle best-selling author of, How To Stop Negative Thoughts: What My Near Death Experience Taught Me About Mind Loops, Neuroscience, and Happiness
Interview with Wayne Dyer from Family Circle, June 2005; http://www.drwaynedyer.com/press/seven-secrets-joyful-life/
photo of Dyer via Hay House Publishing